Advice Column: Relationships

By Glenn H. Williams, Jr.
Contributing Writer

Hello it is your good guy and friend, Glenn.

This week on the advice column I would like to cover something that I’m sure many young adults would like to have, if not now, then maybe in the future: a relationship, and relationships in general.

The Merriam-Webster defines relationships as a “romantic or passionate attachment.”

Me personally, I believe a relationship, in a human to human sense, is kind of a gateway, an unspoken rule of thumb that not exactly binds, but connects two people that want something that is just those two (or three or more). Gender doesn’t matter, male to male, female to female, male to female, love is a force that cannot be understood. Love could be seen as a motion, not so much the physical act of love, but the literal implications of what it means to fully see another person for who and what they truly are.

Relationships always have their ups and downs, complications and benefits.

Not to derail anyone from wanting a relationship or at least trying, they are hard work. When you are in a relationship, you’re in a team, a team that will always back you up, keep you happy and that will always keep you going.

Sometimes in school, relationships can be very time managing, depending on the person.

At times, maybe out of desperation or maybe out of a partner’s inner demons, they would want all their person’s time so they could always be watching them. Those are the type of relationships that are very toxic and to get out of them or to even want to change.

Most people won’t just have a personally transplant and change, that to be honest is scary and it can be very dangerous for a partner.

Something I would recommend for a relationship where a person could just want change in a relationship is just simply talking kindly to your partner.

Do not blame them for anything but try and be direct with the change that you would like out of your partner. Do not let the argument turn around on you, if that is the case, the person may know what he is doing and maybe there is no hope, but you must remember you are a team and team must work together.

There is no “I” in team, but there is Togetherness in “T.”

From a male perspective, the next time I enter a relationship, I would hope for growth, from both me and my partner, I know I need the growth, I will not pretend I am perfect, but I will try to grow as much as my partner needs to.

I hope I can find a way to make someone happy and never cause anyone any arm or any fear for my life.

If I would want to be honest, I would like to grow with my temper. It is something that I would want to work on and not be as ignoring of it because it is so rare.

I hope my advice would help someone out there, there are so many things that I could cover in a relationship that I could literally write pages and pages.

I can’t answer every question but I would want with all my heart to help someone.

If a student or anyone on campus needs someone to talk to, a friend, or maybe even have a suggestion for me to write please email me at gwilliam18@live.esu.edu.

Thank you and I hope you have a wonderful day.

Email Glenn at:
gwilliam18@live.esu.edu

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